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Release years of anxious patterns in a matter of weeks, finally feeling calm and safe in love.

Reconnect to your inner child and shadow with practices that bring lasting healing. Releasing the parts of you that feel "too much".

Build secure relationships where you’re chosen without chasing.

Learn to regulate your nervous system so triggers no longer control you.

Restore healthy polarity with your partner and experience devotion instead of distance. Learn how to set heart centered & firm boundaries.

Receive personalized support that meets you exactly where you are in your journey.

Walk away feeling magnetic, confident, and deeply worthy of love, no longer "needing" healing.

Why Clients Love Working with Me

The Highlights

Adina
United States

Working with Emily has been life-changing. She helped me see where my anxious patterns were keeping me stuck and guided me through one of the most powerful ego deaths of my life. For the first time, I realized I had to choose what was truly best for myself, even after 20 years of marriage and 30 years of history with my partner. The tools she gave me allowed me to detach with love, see my value clearly, and change the standards and dynamic in my relationship. Her exercises helped me time-travel between my past and future, bringing deep healing and clarity. I can honestly say my Phoenix has been activated — I feel ready to spread my wings, live from a place of worth, and finally believe I stand a chance at real love and longevity.

“Emily is a angel!”

"I just thought being anxious was who I was"

I was known as the bulldozer in relationships. I gave 200% — showing up unannounced, fixing everything, doing anything I could to get affection, validation, and attention. I’d triple text, chase my avoidant partner, and then feel crushed when she pulled away or left me. I kept asking myself what I was doing wrong when I was giving everything.

Through my work with Emily, I started to see where all of that came from. Losing my brother left me terrified of losing love again, so I overcompensated by always doing and giving, thinking that was the only way to be worthy of staying. For the first time, I learned how to stop proving and start simply being.

This healing has gone beyond just dating. I’ve been able to work on my relationship with my previous wife and my children, and release so much of the resentment I carried from being in a marriage where I felt like I gave endlessly and got little to no affection back. Now I feel secure, in touch with my masculinity, and I’m no longer chasing love.

Today, my avoidant (girlfriend after ex wife) and I are back together, we’ve moved in, and we’re planning to get married again within the year. But the biggest shift isn’t just the relationship — it’s that I finally feel confident, calm, and worthy of love without needing to fight for it.

Marc
United States

Client Q&A - Meet Benjamin

What is your favorite part about working with Emily?

Emily provided a safe container for me and the things surfacing during the work. I felt very seen, supported and cared for. But in a way, that is neither too removed nor too close. She managed to amazingly bridge being like a wise and loving sister that can still see neutrally and objectively. I've been to two licensed therapists before and sometimes that setting can feel a bit too clinical and removed, which makes sense for some people, but I appreciated the warmth Emily brought to every call and message exchange we had. Sending over updates, experiences and getting feedback quickly, helped me process things quickly, especially those really deep and dark things that can and will surface. I personally am a spiritual person and I liked the balance between the woo and well-grounded approaches and the openness to spiritually related talk. Also, Emily didn't just work through her program with me in a dogmatic or rigid fashion, she adjusted the plan according to my needs. That is a sign of great care and service to her clients.

What results have you seen in your life this far? (Please be specific)

Thanks to this process of working with Emily, I was able to actually feel pain that I carried within myself for 20 years and longer (most of my life, that is). I've never experienced such an intense release and while I had to process that for a few days, I felt lighter instantly. It didn't feel overwhelming or threatening, but wonderfully freeing. I was able to let these feelings surface in a way that felt safe. My biggest fear in working with a coach was something like this happening and overwhelming and re-traumatizing my nervous system. But in my individual case it felt exactly right and freeing. I felt safe enough to allow it to happen. Emily helped me process and heal through one of the worst break-ups I experienced in recent years. It was so bad. But slowly, we pulled me through together. I feel lighter and generally more at ease now. I've always struggled with depression, despite therapy (I do use many different other healing modalities, including therapy, parallel to Emily's coaching, though, as I feel it's important to use every angle possible to heal) I still feel a longing to be with someone, long for closeness, but with less desperation and more fullfillment and self-agency in everyday life. Things simply feel curiously okay. I feel seen by others and get more smiles and kind faces in public. I seldomly experienced this before and felt so unseen by women. Now I get more smiles and occasionally a compliment. That is so cool. I attracted some women with more ease, letting the process unfold more naturally. I still feel a bit of resistance standing in for my needs or fear of hurting others if I speak up. I still feel a bit anxious here and there. But I have enough self-confidence to speak up better now and to also let things go if I need to. I still experience some forms limerence and romantic obsession, something that is quite common in persons with ADHD, but it's less pronounced, less all consuming and obsessive. It still takes work to work through it, but amazingly, also this feels easier to manage. I originally started working with Emily to improve my relationship life and my anxious patterns but an interesting side-effect of this inner work is improving in such a way that I felt more confident to step forward with my self-employment, to be a little bit more daring and self-trusting. People resonate with me on a deeper level.

What has surprised you most in this work?

What has surprised me the most in this work was indeed my first monumental emotional release with one of the first exercises she gave to me. I've had bigger releases before which helped me cry out hurts and some trauma. But this one, holy smokes. I expected slow and incremental changes after weeks and months, but not such an intense release with a simple exercise like this. I felt open and ready for change, though, ready to let go, I think this definately contributed. 

What would you tell someone on the fence to working with Emily?

I'm happy and grateful I made the step to connect with Emily and have her coach me. <3 I'm grateful she assisted me in walking through a very dark chapter of my life with grace and kindness. She helped me heal through one of my worst break-ups in years. It's completely up to you to take the step. If you resonate with her on a deeper level and you keep hearing this quiet voice beckoning you, maybe it has a reason. Maybe you could take the step. But keep in mind that it will still require lots of work when you start working with her. And even after you're done working with Emily you will need to take the self-responsibility to keep working on your patterns and on your healing. It just takes time. Emily is a capable guide, that points you the way, whether you go is completely up to you. See what resonates does or doesn't with you, yet dare to try something new. Be open to change. The work with Emily sets change in motion. It's a great starting point. It ripples through your life in subtle or bigger ways. If you can and that quiet voice keeps beckoning you, then take the step.

Ferdelle
United States

When I started working with Emily, I felt unsafe in my marriage. My husband was emotionally unavailable, and I was constantly on edge. Defensive, distrustful of friends, and stuck in perfectionism rooted in trying to please my mother. Over three months, Emily helped me reconnect with myself, release the pressure to be perfect, and finally feel free. As I softened, everything around me shifted: my husband began stepping up, bringing me gifts, apologizing for his past behavior, and meeting my boundaries with devotion. Even my body changed — my breasts grew, my hips widened, and I feel more feminine and magnetic than ever. He feels like my man, and I his woman. For the first time, I’m at peace with myself and living in a love that feels secure and real.

Working with Emily has completely transformed My marriage, Body, and life!

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Umberto
Spain

Emily is an incredible listener. She remembers everything you share and follows up on every single point, which made me feel truly seen and supported. Through our work together, I reconnected with myself, retook ownership of my life and choices, and remembered my worth. I realized I had been suffocating myself for someone who treated me poorly, and with Emily’s guidance, I finally chose to put myself first — without losing my natural empathy for others. She gave me the tools to see that everything I needed was already inside me. I would love to reconnect with her again in the future because the impact of this work continues to grow.

"I was able to release my ex and remember to put myself first."

ciprian
Spain

The program was above my expectations. Defining the concept of boundaries and learning meditation changed everything for me. I didn’t expect the intensity or how deep it would reach, but it has had such a huge impact. I now regulate my emotions so much better, I’m more aware of my worth, and I can evaluate myself with clarity both in the past and in the present. This new awareness allows me to address issues with confidence and feel far more secure.

My main goal was to develop a more secure approach to all areas of life. Relationships, work, and my future. And now I feel motivated to keep cultivating that. I don’t feel confused or lost anymore, and even if I still have soft spots, I have the tools to transform challenges into growth.

Go for it! Even if you think you’re fine, do it anyway. There’s no limit to reaching a higher version of yourself, and Emily can absolutely make a difference.

“I finally feel secure and free.”

"I adore how encouraging Emily is. She’s tough on you, but in a graceful way that takes away the shame and the guilt. She is patient and truly wants the best for me. She is incredible with meeting you where you’re at, and also challenging you and calling you up to a higher standard. I’ve become more confident and more trusting of myself in situations where I’d previously shrink myself, mainly in conversations with others. I’ve been able to have tough conversations that don’t lead to fights. I’ve been able to see through pretty words and unlock the reality of what someone is saying, even if I don’t like it. I’ve gained tools that help me dissolve my anxiety and because I have them, I get anxious less in general. I’ve learned to not take things too personal and pull things back to myself and what I want. I’ve learned to forgive myself and be okay with emotions like anger that previously I pushed down because it wasn’t an 'okay' thing to feel. It's amazing how much my anxiety has decreased over things that used to make me spiral. Scary text messages, space and distance, someone’s tone of voice, etc. It’s not easy, but it’s amazing. Emily helps you find so much confidence in yourself and in your own body that you didn’t know you had. If you’re ready to put in the time and the effort, this work will change your life. " - Client S

"It’s quicker than years of therapy." - Client T

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Her personality is authentic and her love for life forces me to believe that the universe will work things out in the best possible way if you let it, even when I want to believe it isn't true. I have begun embodying what has been taught and gotten to a place where I'm not overanalyzing everything but rather accepting what I can and cannot control and just focused on keeping my side of things clean. I'm able to finally move from limbo into the next phase of my life however that may look. Emily is a great coach and worth every penny and minute, especially if you take the time to really engage, listen, learn, and embody which will lead to huge changes in your life. Just do it!" - Justin


"Working with Emily has been nothing short of magical. The practical moments where we put everything into action, combined with her warmth and smile, made me feel safe to grow. Since starting this program, I’ve received my first promotion at work, I’ve attracted men who naturally step into the role of protector and provider, and I’ve been able to completely silence the voices in my head. I now feel both physically and spiritually connected to myself in ways I never imagined. I’ve learned to count my blessings more than my worries, and I’m truly grateful for this program. If you come across Emily, prioritize yourself and say yes — this work is like fairy magic, and it transforms every aspect of your life into a twirly, confident expression of your inner power."
- Elizabeth, Nigeria

Words from my nigerian client who went from heartbroken, to heart-throb.

How Emily Helped Elizabeth Release Generational Trauma & Discover Her Magic

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Feeling inspired by these transformation stories? It’s time to make yours the next one. You don’t have to stay stuck in anxious patterns, people-pleasing, or self-doubt. With the right support, you can heal at the root, regulate your nervous system, and step into the secure, magnetic version of yourself who attracts the love and life you’ve always known you were meant for.
This is your invitation to invest in yourself, rise into your power, and begin your own Remembrance moment.

This work is about becoming a better person, partner, friend, and stranger.

You deserve to thrive